We met people not by coincidence- Happy Birthday Alisa! + 7 reasons Why you cannot fall in love into a traveler :)

Wow! What a lucky girl that I would write a blog for her isn't it? Hey Alisa! You are dearly special to manipulate me to do this, and it will be a Belated Happy Birthday to you! haha

Happy Birthday, Alisa!

Okay, the fact what I am doing this is- Why not? In this article, you will know why!

I met her as my roommate in Melaka, sad and innocent. Innocent? this is very nice from my perspective right Alisa? Am I really mean now? I love you.

Okay so Alisa told me - " I DO NOT LIKE MELAKA!!!!!!!" and I am so surprised to meet a person telling me that one where I love Melaka from my first impression until now. And it is true that we cannot force a person to think us the same, instead, I ask her- her reasons. 

Best Indian Restaurant in Melaka

*Tips: Whoever tell their reasons when you asked them- Please continue listening, the first reason was not always the truth, you will know that explanation when she/ he is telling the stories when emotions vanish away and it is a pure honest face with words that you will know that right away if you are very observant. And you know what I figured it out?

SHE FELT IN LOVE TO A TRAVELER!

OH MY GUSH! I CAN JUST SEE MYSELF WAY BACK THEN WHEN I FALL IN LOVE TO MY FIRST EX THAT IS A TRAVELER!

One of the oldest church in Melaka featuring Alisa as a model ;)

My friends somehow knew this story and if you know the story I think I wrote about him some of my blogs and some my Ig feed as that moment was really special. It was special because it was my first time in a romantic relationship that makes me believe "Wow, Love is real" but now, Family is the real love and that is the only that cannot change as you have the same blood running and the Catholic taught us that family shall and should stay forever. Thank you for that beliefs you instill to my parents and family and I can consider, there are people loves me besides my imperfections.

Never forget the coconut shake to have it in Melaka! Pretty sweet but good to have after a long walk!

First of all, Alisa is lovable. She is a nice person- we see the places I have never been to Melaka and we were together to celebrate her birthday as well as my one year anniversary being away from home. She is a woman who will say -" I AM SO MAD NOW!", when the internet doesn't work, when the guy he likes never replied to her or any situation that will never be on her side.

Alisa's Birthday and I just can't say no to all her request because it's her birthday lol, very spoiled that day hahah

It is funny that I find it annoying because she reminds me on my past- I was like that before, always complaining and even my friends advise me I still say what I wanted to say that really makes no sense to ask any pieces of advice at all. In an example, I will share a story and people suggests what I will do but in fact, I know what I want to do I just want someone to listen, right girls? This is what we are and I think that People also want to listen to what they want to listen and you will never see the beauty at all if you already found the beauty already that you consider that is the beauty.

Alisa told me she does not like Malaysia at all even Melaka because the fact is her heart was left to Vietnam. Not because of she like the country but because she fell in love with a person who is still there. Therefore, who would else relate if you never in this situation especially you have been there many times, isn't it?

Let's talk about my perspective - since I am also a traveler and I am a human. I want to see new places and at the same time, I want to felt love. To love a person and they loved you back the same of love you wanted is the greatest gift and feeling you can ever have in this world. But the stupid cupid will not always work in that way because being a human we want role-playing and when the person failed to act that roles we realized that they do not love us back and we felt unsatisfied and that is we complain because we never get what we wanted.

Alisa and the banana leaf in an Indian restaurant

My first ex who breaks my heart- Thank God! was a nice person because he made me see the world that the world is a balanced world. There are love and hate. There is always the opposite in everything that makes up in this life. I am grateful that he crossed in my journey because I learned a lot in this life. I learned that in a relationship and in society we play a different role and in everything in this life are impermanent. And he never only said that to me to make me learned but experienced it that makes me so much sense that I cannot forget. Thank you so much. Two things I can share that what I learned- always be kind and shares love like you are abundant on it and it will be given to you somehow and that is how life works to have a wonderful life to live in.

When we found love and that love is what we want, we always follow and risk whatever may happen. But relationship should be clear from the very first place and it is hard work. It is about compromising each other and accepting all the differences in between that if both of you is not at the same page let them be on their way, stay nice but do not hold on to it. One day there will be someone who will be on the same page as you are but I think it is worth it than to be in a person in a moment you wanted but you force them to be on the same page as you are in.

Alisa on her 33rd birthday at a helipad with a 55 ringgit Jack Daniels ;)

It is not the fault of my past and Alisa to fall in love with a person who will not do the same love as we wanted, it is the fault of stupid cupid who control this red strings haha who do not consider justice and facts but anyway that perhaps will bring something to learn about. It is not a coincidence to meet people along the way, it is either there is a lesson you have to learn or you gave that lesson to them.

It is me in Langkawi one of the temples have this deer who wanted to kiss me in my mind haha

*Why you cannot fall in love to a traveler?

1. They are happy with their own space

2. They only want fun

3. They believe everything will pass anyway so they always crave to "What is next"

4. They are open minded so when you felt bad towards them they will still understand it

5. They do not want responsibility and do not want commitment

6. You are not their priority so please do not put your hopes up

7. They do not want to hurt you so they always want to meet you half way but still will not go beyond to that halfway so it will make you confused all the time. In an example, you are decided you want to move on to this person but the person still texted you nice words or wants to meet you, not because they want to have a life with you but they are having fun with you, so why not come back- isn't it?

I am with the real tiger, that is how you look like when you think you are in the right person lol

Before these words never makes sense to me because I am not living in it before and as a traveler who is been in the road for more than a year- all these words are from the bottom of my heart that is hopefully whoever will meet me along the way and wants me to their life to be with- I am nice but it may take time for me to consider having life taking out the beliefs I believe in or understands me and be with me in this world.

Alisa, you remind me of my old self and so please enjoy the moment and do what makes you happy and if one day you will cry- I am one call away to be your ear.

And to my all ex-lovers, thank you for breaking up with me. Thank you to all the lessons I learned and at the moment I may not get all that I wanted but I have what I needed. :)

My view at the moment is a white bird with a green mountain at the back and all these brown and green grasses that collide each other that made me realize- in this life, there is no specific rule to everything it always depends on how the Universe what He wants it to be, which means even if I watered all these brown grasses  to be back in green, it will never always be back to green if that is the brown grass is meant to be. 

Just enjoy the process, You do not have to understand everything! Be kind, Be well, Namaste!

If you have any question about how I look like daily? This is my answer- I do not usually comb my hair hahaha

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