Why my parents are the best! the 7 outstanding reasons~

People might think that I am "Layas" but honestly, I am not.

me when I was 3 months old

Looking back when I am young around I am in the age of 6 or 7 years old, I can remember when I have a homework from school and I want my mom to do it. But what my mom did is give the dictionary and told me - What is the purpose of this if you won't use it. Since then in everything I refrain asking any help from my mom. I get a chair to climb up the banggera (sink) to wash dishes or get water. Yes we have katabang/ maid not because we are rich but we are 5 siblings and both of my parents are working. I remember even we have katabang we do not really feel it because "palabhun ghapon mi ni mama sa amung sanina ug pahugason mig plato sa amung kinan an after kaon" (wash our own clothes and own dishes after we ate).

Mama carrying me, so beautiful mama

Asking money or anything to my mom is really Lisud (hard) because my mom always says "walai kwarta" (no money). I know I really hates those moments to want this and that but mostly we (me and my siblings)  end up shutting up our mouth or else the "litanya" (sermon of explanation) will not end.

Kuya Jek2, mommy marites, mark jan, me and ate rosette

True, we hate the time we do not get what we want and we threw all our tantrums just to have it like - ligid sa kalsada (rolling my body on the street), crying so loud, closing my door and not showing to any meals, not talking and always a sad face or even black mailing (ma, pag di ko nimu palitan ani kay mabagsak jud ko). Yes, I am very spoiled to my own self and a crazy psycho to get what I want but of course I will loose all the time because mama always win.

When I am kindergarten

There were times I won and get what I want especially when I do lambing (sweet) to my father before, like a barbie bag, a blue watch barbie, a pork barbecues, a camp of girl scout and many more.

Papa, Me, te nal, ya rene, rj

But here's why I am so thankful why I got my parents and why I am so proud that they brought me like this.

1. Because my mom do not always provides my wants, I learned that we may not get always we want but we get what we need. And I tell you, there was no single day that we are out of rice or food on the table.

2.Because my parents never help me to any work, I learned to discover the solution by my own from getting a chair so I can reach the sink to make my own money for me to live and get what I want and all my needs.

3. Because my parents are busy, I learned to love them more and understand them more that in this world you can't have any person in you all time but you also have time to your different priorities - God, family, self, career and friends. You may change the way I order it but the important is you give time to those who really matters.

4. Because my parents never showed us when they have arguments but only silence, it made me realized that in silence you can help the situation feel at ease while all those anger evaporates before having a communication.

5. Because my mom always  told me no money, I realized that she said that for me to realized that she got money but she just do not have money to those things that doesn't matter like for example a barbie doll. My mom taught me to enjoy to what toys she got like a car and a bowl of number magnets and letters.

6. Because my mom never answer my homework and give me a book, I became resourceful. If I have question I do research, check reviews and any option before jumping to any decision - but sometimes when my impulsive being manifested me- the "come what may" follows and it's so exciting! (haha)

7. Because my parents respects my decision to discover things and experience it by my own. Yes for sure they are worried to all my travels but they never fail to trust me that I can do it. Because my parents trust me that I am able to get what I want- all my travels and decision in my life happened. There were times my mom cried when she saw me back again after I am away for a year and I saw her too when I left that she hold that teary eye but I told her that trust me, this will help me to grow and know myself more. I always push my limits and challenge myself, I know my mom always says I am very adventurous, my dad will always tell my mama- let her go that makes her happy. Salamat pa.

My papa Rolly and Mama Cristy

Mama Cristy and Papa Rolly, Thank you for this freedom you gave me. Thank you for the trust that I can do it. Thank you because you bring me up the human I wanted. I may not following what the dogma is - settling in one job , get married and have a baby but you bring the best out of me that even me I wonder how I made it possible.

I am on the road since April right after the birthday of my big bro kuya Jek, April 16, 2018 and since then I trust the God of Universe to put me where I will grow. What I always to ask is to bring me to the right person that will help me to be the person who He want me to be. 

2014 in Sagada, Philippines

I know this kind of life is very uncertain, mishaps of course happens but surviving in a not comfort zone with people who do not speak language same as yours, eating the food you are not used to, blending to the people you just met so you won't end up having any arguments, respecting any beliefs and cultures, strong enough to try everything - even if I keep falling down, I keep on hitting the ground- I always get up and see what is next.

Koh Samui Thailand, 2016

I know ma and pa- I may worry you sometimes but Thank you so much for letting me finding and learning it by my own. You are the best parents in this world that if in another life I got a chance to know who will be my parents- I still choose you Mama Cristy and Papa Rolly.

Thailand 2016

This blog is of course dedicated to my parents, I am out of words of how thankful I am to have them. 

P.s If you think your parents are wrong, I tell you they are not-they just follow and taught you what their parents taught to them- but it is you who can change that thinking. You just have to show and prove them that in this world, nothing is right and wrong because either or you will both face the consequences and choosing what you want to take and enjoying the process is the best way to live in this life.

Mandalay, Myanmar, 2019

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